The Hot Loneliness is Where the Party is

I love how Glennon Dolye describes the “hot loneliness”. Doyle describes the place where pain and discomfort lies as the hot loneliness which is a place I am all too familiar. For me my hot loneliness was not just the mental pain, but the physical pain. My “hot loneliness” was filled with all the thoughts…

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The Great Escape

When you don’t know how to stop the world from spinning dissociating provides this sweet comfort. I could “check out” from any intense emotional situation and return when my body, mind or the situation became safe again. The exist had really little to do with safety and more to do with the perception of safety.…

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When the Name of the Game is Shame

If you have read pervious post you know I have been well acquainted with fear. In my very last post I introduced you to my experience with my friend shame. Shame has definitely been a close companion of mine over the years. I learned early on I was too much. I asked too many questions…

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Nothing is Fair When Shame is Involved

“Shame on me, shame on me! Shit, shame on me,” is all that played in my head as I sat on the bathroom floor of barracks room. What on earth had I done? In that moment the shame I was experiencing was not the shame my mother and sister wanted me to feel, instead it…

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If it pricks you, then it is for you

“If it pricks you then it is for you” is one of my favorite quotes. Every teacher I’ve had has said this quote to me during some part of my journey. I find I use the same quote when I am serving as teacher or mentor to another person. I personally use this quote as…

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This little light of mine

No one lights a lamp in order to hide it behind the door: the purpose of light is to create more light, to open people’s eyes, to reveal the marvels around. – “The Witch of Portobello” By Paulo Coelho   I am currently pondering this quote because it resonates with me on several different levels.…

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